Posts (15)

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2025-09-30
everything’s okay if you’re still having fun
everything’s okay if you’re still having fun
the Fun agenda
2025-09-01
passive obsession
passive obsession
meditations on fantasy school and creativity
2025-08-20
Sense and Sensibility: on choosing men
Sense and Sensibility: on choosing men
historically a life or death matter!!
2025-08-07
affinity
affinity
how to know if you actually really like something
2025-07-29
I have free will?
I have free will?
on gratitude
2025-06-30
dialectical damage
dialectical damage
love, friction and mercy
2025-06-25
first days of summer
first days of summer
"self-portrait at 28"
2025-06-17
clothes store memories
clothes store memories
HOUSEKEEPING: We’re doing a version of Bookbear Express matchmaking that pairs people based on their three favorite Substacks.
2025-06-09
who do you go to for advice?
who do you go to for advice?
The idea that I’m the “average of the five people I spend the most time with” feels self-aggrandizing.
2025-05-17
seeing that saves
seeing that saves
on getting to know things better
2025-05-05
always on your side
always on your side
friendship is magic
2025-04-30
grace
grace
discernment without judgment
2025-04-23
present tense
present tense
Housekeeping: ask me Dear Bear questions here. The matchmaking results will be out in the next couple of days :)
2025-04-11
Dear Bear: how do I get over someone I thought was perfect for me? + what do I do if my friend is "too picky"?
Dear Bear: how do I get over someone I thought was perfect for me? + what do I do if my friend is "too picky"?
+ matchmaking closes in two days
2025-04-06
I didn't text you back because I was trying to find you a date
I didn't text you back because I was trying to find you a date
+ matchmaking penpal option for people who live outside SF/NY!